Admit when you’re wrong

By now, everyone's heard about the M. Night Shyamalan-like twist at the end of last night's Academy Awards ceremony. La La Land won! No, wait, it's really Moonlight! (Yay Moonlight! Totally deserved.) It's very easy for us to make fun of Warren Beatty and Faye Dunaway...

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On examining privilege

The first time I heard the term "white privilege," it made sense to me. Of course, I grew up a solidly middle class white Jewish girl from Long Island, so it wasn't that much of a stretch to me. We weren't even remotely the most well-to-do folks in town, but neither...

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"Enter title here." Blink blink blink goes the cursor. I finally write a title. Start writing a post. Realize the post is stupid and I've written all there is to say in the first few sentences. Delete it all. "Enter title here." Blink blink blink goes the cursor....

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I love this weather. It scares me.

I walked extra with Lumi this morning in the park. It was in the 60s and I was wearing a T-shirt on under my lightest jacket. Partway through the walk, I took the jacket off and tied it around my waist; a T-shirt was all I needed. The sun on my face felt refreshing;...

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Computers recycled, time well-spent

I've been buying Mac laptops for more than a decade now, and am on my fourth. Two of the old ones were so beat up that their batteries no longer held a charge. One of them couldn't even be upgraded to the current operating system, so Safari and Chrome kept warning us...

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Silence is vital and necessary

There's been an explosion of posts about introverts over the past few years, and this isn't really one of them. I hover somewhere between introvert and extrovert - in fact, on the Meyers-Briggs test, I've always scored 50-50 on the I/E portion, meaning that I...

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Badass women in outer space

I hadn't read the books the SyFy series The Expanse is based on when the show started, and I've decided to at least wait until this season is over to start. It's a grand space opera, probably the best science fiction on TV since Battlestar Galactica. The special...

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Moving is the worst

Moving is the worst. I know that was the title of this post, but it's a point that bears repeating. Trying to get everything packed on time, figuring out what to get rid of, cleaning the appliances, trying to get everything packed on time. I was fortunate in that I'd...

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I didn’t want to write today

I didn't want to go for a four-mile walk today with my dog. I didn't want to spend an hour brushing my dog today. I didn't want to vacuum upstairs today. I didn't want to dust the boys' rooms today. I didn't want to write today. Those are a huge variety of things I...

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How to be friends with a racist person

Simple: Don't be. I see lots of posts these days from people wondering how to reconcile long-time friendships with people with the sudden discovery that this person doesn't give a flying fig about people who aren't white. It's not complicated. There's no, "Oh, but...

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An ode to staying in bed

Every once in a while, you need to just stay in bed, under the covers, and let the day slide by you. It's important to indulge in those feelings, and to allow yourself to feel what you need to feel. This morning, I didn't really want to get out of bed. My dog, Lumi,...

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